A child needs to learn early on that good people will catch them if they fall. And so do moms. And that is a lesson we learned the hardest way possible.
My children’s first day of life was spent in the NICU with an amazing team of nurses and doctors, while I lay immobile in a hospital bed. Quite suddenly, like a baptism by fire, I realized this parenting journey was not meant to be done alone. My precious little boys lived because other people--strangers at the time--took care of them. They watched, fed, changed, and even sang to them. While my amazing husband was torn between caring for me and caring for his babies, all of us in critical condition, we had other people meeting our family’s needs. From our first moments as parents, we learned that we were not going to be the only ones raising our children.
It has become one of my life’s greatest joys to watch my boys smile when they hear someone else’s voice telling them that they are special. When their Nanna walks in and scoops them up with “I love you” and “I’ve missed you.” Or when my boys want to send videos every single day to their favorite friend-turned-uncle. To see my boys glow at the sight of new toys shared by neighbors. I am hopeful that some day, my two little sons will grow up understanding that it is okay to need people. As a mom, I have needed others from day one.
How can you open up your world to let others in? How can you be there to help those you love as they raise their own kids?