Motherhood –The Toughest Job You’ll Ever LOVE
I remember it like it was yesterday. I had this sweet, little, blonde-haired, blue-eyed treasure. I had just put her down to bed and I promptly called my mom.
“Mom??? “ I cried into the phone, “Help me!!! I don’t know what to do with this little one.” She politely laughed and said, “Don’t worry, babe. She will be fine and so will you.” Wise words from a very wise woman.
Now, believe me. I didn’t always think my mom was wise. When I was a teenager, I was completely sure that she was not wise at all. HA! Little did I know, but my mom actually did know it all. And I didn't.
Motherhood is like that. It’s the job that once you have it figured out, the little one changes and now you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing at all. Can anyone relate?
Well, in my 20 some years as a mom, I have figured out a few things.
- They don’t come with a manual
They don’t! It’s the most "On the job" training job I’ve ever done. But, somehow you figure it out and it all does get better. I didn’t say it gets easier, but definitely better.
- Memorize this Phrase: This too Shall Pass
I remember going to a MOPS group (Mothers of Preschoolers). My oldest daughter was very young and I was trying hard to figure out this motherhood thing. I remember thinking, “Gosh, something is definitely wrong with my girl.” She didn’t want to nap and she was only just 2. When she was 3, she had strong opinions and an equally strong will. I thought something was either wrong with her or me. I just wasn’t sure which.
And, then, as I went to MOPS and talked with other moms, I realized...she’s normal. You mean, all little kids do these things? Yep! Most do. It was a huge ephiphany for me. It was then that a wise friend at MOPS told me, “This too shall pass.” And, you know what? She was right. That little stubborn 3 year old girl is now 21 and almost finished with college. And she turned out pretty well.
- Give yourself Room to Grow
Refer to 1. We, as new parents or even seasoned parents, simply don't know what we are doing most of the time. I often told our oldest daughter, “I’m sorry. I’ve never been a parent before you, so I am figuring it out too.” Give yourself room to make mistakes. Understand that you don’t have to be a perfect parent, just be a parent. The rest will come along the way. And – don’t be afraid to make mistakes. We all do and we learn from them.
Oh – super important. Be willing to say I’m sorry. These two small, powerful words will speak volumes to your child about how much you love and treasure them. Use them often.
And some food for thought:
Mother is the name for
God in the lips and hearts of little children. –
By William Makepeace Thackeray
Happy Mother’s Day!!!